I have often pictured what what my dream house would look like. Before the days of saving “pins” for inspiration, I would flip through Home and Garden magazines to find ideas from the best houses. My “house” board on Pinterest is now bursting at the seems with hundreds of ideas I hope to bring to life one day in my own home. If money was no issue, here would be a few of my must-haves.

Laundry Room

Although I despise doing laundry, a designated space to do so would make it a little better, right? An ideal laundry room would include space to hang delicates for drying, adequate cabinet space to keep soap, detergent and other necessities, a sink to pretreat any stains and a counter to be able to fold laundry.

Mud Room

In my opinion, mud rooms are a such a missed opportunity in houses. At my parents’ house, their laundry and mud room is located off the garage. As a room to store your shoes, hang up jackets and keep any other belongings together, it keeps unwarranted dirt from being tracked into the main part of the house.

Open Kitchen Concept

I can imagine the smell of fresh cookies wafting through the air as we two up a night of great fellowship and even better company. A cup of coffee is brewing and all is right with the world. A walk-in pantry with shelving for optimum organization would also make this girl’s heart sing. Having an island for plenty of space to prepare meals and bar stools for additional seating would optimal use of space. A breakfast nook in the corner by the window and a coffee bar would add a nice touch for the caffeine lovers in our family. The general theme of my dream kitchen changes daily, but a sleek yet boho style seems to fit my taste here lately.

The kitchen at our apartment can only really fit one person comfortably and two without being able to move around much, so having any much more room will be an upgrade. With that being said, an open kitchen concept is important in the fact that I want for it to be a place where I enjoy cooking with Chandler without feeling cramped.

Bedrooms Upstairs

Having a two story house has always been a dream of mine. I grew up in one story house and loved going over to friend’s houses that had room to run up and down the stairs in a disorderly fashion. A master bedroom, one for each of our kids and a guest room would be my ideal setup. Any more than that is more space to clean. Let’s also not forget the walk-in closet in our master! My husband has twice the amount of clothes that I do, so we need to account for enough space.

Having our bedrooms upstairs would also allow us more to space to host and have more “livable” space downstairs.

Large Backyard

We currently live in an apartment with no backyard of our “own.” While we are thankful that there is no upkeep required of us currently, we would love to have a yard for children and pets have the freedom to roam freely, while also having a garden for fruits and vegetables. To have our own space to do with as we please would be such a nice feeling. A space to also host parties and family gatherings would be such a blessing for me. A back porch dimly lit with stringed lights, rocking chairs to sip coffee as the morning sun rises and a fire pit to roast marshmallows in the warm summer breeze would be such a great a dream come true.

A girl can dream, right? Depending on our budget and what part of Asheville has the best bang for buck, I know there are certain things we will have to compromise on. With that being said, I am excited to have a house of our own one day. I can’t wait to make it a safe haven for friends and family, as well as filling it with kids of our own. I pray that our home is a place where our friends feel welcome to take their shoes off and stay for awhile. I want it to be a home built firm on the promises of the Lord and a place where we forgive often, laugh freely and love mightily.

What were some of the non-negotiables for you when building and/or moving into a new house, townhouse etc?




Dishes fill the sink to the point of spilling over. Laundry creates a mountain sized mound on your bed waiting be folded. The shelves need to be dusted and the floors haven’t been swept in some time. Cat toys are strewn across the floor.

As my mom says, cleanliness is next to Godliness. Anybody else hear that growing up? 😂

As I catch my mind wandering to the thousands of chores that need to be attended to, I am learning to embrace the messy. “Housekeeping” will always be a revolving door of being in the middle of // different things. Nonetheless, I can be appreciative. Is that weird to say? I have free access to a washer and dryer. I have free access to a vacuum. I have access to a dishwasher, which I didn’t have just last year. Some of these basic necessities are truly an answer to prayer and things I have been wanting for it seems like for forever.

A messy apartment shows me that there is life, and an abundant one at that.

I can be the first to agree that some (okay, most) days, my to-do list seems way too overwhelming to even start. The to-do list seems Mt. Everest long and continues to grow by the minute. If you are feeling like this is you, I get it. You are not alone. Take one task at a time. Be patient with yourself.

For myself, I find myself navigating to writing up a list to follow. For me, I compartmentalize by rooms. One day, I will work on the bedroom and get things organized and put up. I make the bed. I ho through my closet to see if there are things I want to thrift or give away. Find a method that works for you, though!

Balancing a full-time job, a spouse, a pet, and a social life isn’t easy by any means. It is in those moments, however, that I am the most grateful. I am grateful to have all of those things in my life.

I’m sure my list will grow that much more when we have kids, but I will learn to adapt. We tend to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves, which is good in some regard, but can also make us go crazy. Keep your head up and do the best you can. Ask for help. That’s all you can do.

Today, embrace the messy. Life is more than a perfectly clean house.